It's a quite dreary day here.  I'm sitting in my comfy chair by my window and feeling quite lazy. I decided this morning that today would be no stress.  I woke with the beginnings of a migraine and I'm completely out of all my meds so I thought I'd be a mess.

I woke up too early and took a shower.  Who hooo. Thought it might help my headache. I took a couple of tylenol, a couple asprin and so far it's at a very low level.  It helped that my youngest son has Mondays off and he was so sweet to go to dunks to get his mama a medium iced coffee, caramel swirl please, cream only. ūüôā

For a least the past few months I've been feeling very apathetic.  It's nothing new to anyone who has been reading for a while. I have no desire to do much of anything.  I kind of shuffle from one room to another.

I've been working on learning wood burning.  I found an amazing artist who does this very distinct style of it.  She wood burns the entire background and leaves the detailed elements untouched.  It's oposite of everyone else and it's stunning.  She has some amazing rolling pins….$260.00.  

So like my normal self, ie: sock knitting, tatting, smocking I picked up these hobbies a long time ago.  I could have just knit something simple as I was a basic knitter at the time but figured out how to read the patterns and soon I was knitting socks.  My mom was the most impressed and swore she couldn't ever knit one. I walked her through the process and I am no longer knitting socks and she has continued for the past ten years.  We all get hand knit socks for Christmas.  They are a luxury.

When my daughter was small (she is now > 20) I longed to stitch those amazing Polly Flinder dresses.  They were hand smocked which is gathered at the front. I could hardly sew never mind smock.  Nobody in my area did this style of sewing so I taught myself. I got so good after sewing for my nieces and daughter that I started a small business taking custom orders.  I made Christening gowns….one lady sent me her wedding dress. I sent some beautiful nightgowns to Switzerland.

Now here I am with a new craft that I can't get looking right.  I've been doing it for the past month.  When I read reviews of the amazing artist I was trying to emulate, I read "museum quality" and was even more discouraged.  I have a lot more work ahead.  And this is a thing I think best for artists who can draw which I am not very good at. I know it will take lots of work for me to master this and I want to be good at it NOW. I don't think the standard model of wood burner works that great and I'm ready to invest in the expensive more professional version.  I will not allow myself to invest at this point when I'm just learning and apparently the whole world of youtube uses that shitty tool and gets the good results they want. So.  I'll just keep practicing and trying to get my own look.

I've been finding some old wood pieces at Goodwill.  I have found some wooden spoons and spatulals and a couple of large cutting boards.  I adore the rolling pins and I've picked up 3 of them.  Unfortunately these are for experienced wood burners and the wood is very hard.  I got a couple of frames after seeing some beauties.

So now I've been doing the wood spoons after picking up a pack of inexpensive ones.  The wood is easy to burn. I thought it was silly at first then I decided to try some personalized wooden spoons as gifts.  It was nice to think about the recipient using the spoon for years and them thinking of me when they use it!  burnedfurniture1

Since I'm not a drawer, it dawned on me that i could rubber stamp some designs and burn over them.  If I do that again I need to remember to use light ink.  I thought the dark ink would blend in with the burning which it does….but it also is hard to tell where I already burned vs the ink.

Here is one of my first spoons…LMAO.  I figure I've gotta tackle the regular kind of wood burning before I get to the point where I can do that other style.







It’s Been So Long WordPress

It’s good to be back! ¬†Things are going pretty well. ¬†Migraines not so much but that’s my life and I gotta deal with it. ¬†Some things that have been going on lately:

I went away with one of my best friends to the beach for a long weekend. ¬†It was so therapeutic. ¬†Despite our crappy hotel room we had a blast going to the bar two nights in a row. ¬†Man, I’m not able to party late like I could in my 20/30’s. ¬†We got back to the hotel around 1 maybe. ¬†I can remember times of going to NYC and heading back to the hotel at 4am which seemed to come too soon.

The live music was what I needed. I haven’t been out in so long. I had a bit of social anxiety in the beginning but once we had a couple drinks it was ok. ¬†I didn’t over indulge at all but had a nice buzz going. ¬†I get so mesmerized by boys in bands…:sigh: I adore live music and what excitement it brings to me.

Ever since I’ve gained weight on the f’ing abilify I have hated the way I look in the mirror or in pictures. ¬†I have avoided posting any pictures on FB because I feel so ugly. My Tdoc says it’s my depression talking. ¬†I know it partly is. I feel so ugly fat. Any tips on how to get over this?

But this weekend I made an effort to take a lot of pictures because somehow I’ve gotta get one good picture right? I kept it up all weekend as we had fun and I actually kind of felt like I liked how I looked. ¬†This was a surprise. I didn’t hate my hair which I’ve hated since January when I cut it all off (probably hypo-manic while traveling). My hair grows so slow. So between my chopped hair and my chubby body I don’t like it.

I try to look at other people and see how they are happy and comfortable with their appearance.  They are enjoying listening to the music even though they might not look like a model. I really want to learn to be comfortable in my own skin again.

This is really TMI but hell, it’s truth. ¬†That’s what I look for in the blogs I read. ¬†Really genuine folks who I can relate to. ¬†Anyway I’ve been showering much more frequently. And you do feel better after a shower. I’ve tried to convince myself that that is a myth but it’s true. ¬†So while we were away there were daily showers and I’ve kept it up since I’ve been home. Baby steps.

Stress, Anxiety and Cognition.

I had been working as a nurse for about 4 years before I changed jobs and landed in an office nursing job. I was working odd shifts and the regular schedule of an office was something I was looking for. ¬†I was looking for something less fast paced because of my anxiety. I worked for an MD who was really great. Some of my duties included rooming patients, vital signs, some medical history info, med info and the like. ¬†I’m sure you’ve ran into one of me at one of your doctor appointments. I called in prescriptions and worked on insurance things.

Since this was a totally different type of nursing job I was learning new things. I had difficulty remembering what I was supposed to ask my patients. ¬†In between their answer and inputting their responses I’d forget and have to ask again. I might forget how tall they were so I’d have to remeasure. I might forget to have them change into a gown. Sometimes I’d forget which room they were in. Medication calculations….and I was never sure of myself, ever. I couldn’t¬†memorize¬†anything. ¬†If I were being given new instructions or shown a new job to do I would blank out and find myself starring out at the person thinking of something else. I’d ask to have it repeated and pretend to understand or know what I was supposed to do.

Because I was a good employee, kind, caring, willing to work I was given passes. But it never went away. I passed this all off to A.D.D and even got treatment for it which possibly made my anxiety worse. ¬†Who knows.¬†I was finally diagnosed with Lyme and it has made me wonder if the Lymes got into my brain…:sigh:

I ended up quitting my job after 5+ years in a manic, paranoid period. I was sure that everyone was against me. As my depression worsened I was sure that something was seriously wrong with me and decided between the plethora of health issues like migraines, irritable bowel syndrome, fibro, lyme and anxiety that I was going to try and get myself better. ¬†I knew working was causing my body so much stress it was taking a tole. Stress was the single biggest factor in my migraines which was as bad as they could get. I’d be getting migraines 6 days a week.

I filed for SS disaility about 6 months after I left my job. ¬†Social security did not accept my new pyche APRN since she wasn’t a MD so they sent me to a psychologist. ¬†At this point I knew that I had bipolar. I learned about the cognition problems that can occur with extreme anxiety or depression. I know I have both of those.

She informed that she wouldn’t be able to tell me if I was approved or not for SS disability. ¬†That was her first statement. I was surprised she was so reserved and seemed very judgmental as she went over my meds with me.

Her first question was “why do you feel like you cannot work any longer”. ¬†For some reason I never expected that question so I hadn’t prepared an answer at all. I tried to explain in my stupid dumb way that I wasn’t able to function at work and I was overwhelmed and incredibly depressed. I tried to explain how I’d forget which rooms the patients were in or tell the doctor the wrong room AGAIN. I told her how I’d forget words or situations. ¬†She observed the same when I would tell her I couldn’t remember.

The exam continued on and she learned of my manic episodes. I tried to make sure she understood the extremes of it and I was embarrassed. ¬†Finally, she was the first person I explained ALL of my mania to. She asked about therapy and why didn’t I do it. Why didn’t my psyche nurse or GP recommend therapy. ¬†I explained how embarrassing this was and I didn’t have it in me to do. ¬†Then….I remembered I went to therapy. ¬†She noddded. I said (again!) I forgot but I did go to therapy (briefly) years ago when the manic symptoms began but I didn’t continue and didn’t realize at the time that I had bipolar disorder.

When we got to the memory/cognition part of the exam at the end I was nervous. ¬†She asked me to count backwards by 7’s from 100. ¬†I know so many people who say they couldn’t do it either. ¬†I had tears streaming down my face and I wouldn’t look at her, closing my eyes and counting on my fingers. ¬†When I knew I was wrong I looked at her and said, please….and she said no….two more numbers and I’d have to try and go back counting and it was a mess.

At the end of the exam I apologized to her for my tears and she assured me that she gets that all the time. I mentioned something else and told her I couldn’t remember the word I was looking for…..and she point blank asked me if I have trouble like that often. DUH.

I never had to go to my scheduled MD visit for my migraines because I was approved with a mood disorder alone. I found out fairly quickly and since I had been out of work I was awarded back pay to the time I quit my job unexpectedly. I think it was all due to my lack of or decrease in my cognition.

These days I’m not working and it’s really no better. ¬†I talk without thinking sometimes (I think that’s what I do!). ¬†The other day I was at my friends house admiring her new puppy. ¬†Her chickens were out and they started to follow the puppy…….I said look! The kittens are following him! ¬†I mean CHICKENS. ¬†I switch words like cold for hot. ¬†I don’t know if this is dyslexia or what it is. But I’ve done it since I started that job.

Of course this all makes me nervous thinking about dementia and Alzheimer disease. Or Parkinson’s. ¬†Or anything I read about with memory issues. I do believe that Alzheimer’s is more of forgetting HOW to do stuff. ¬†How to drive or what a fork is for.

At least that’s what I tell myself. ¬†I’m just tryin not to add to the stress. ūüôā


Official Diagnosis

I’ve never asked my pdoc what my diagnosis is. ¬†Or make that diagnosis’s. ¬†I know I have anxiety, depression, bipolar something. ¬†But I didn’t want to ask him and he never came out with it. I didn’t want to seem like one of those people who gets wrapped up in a diagnosis.

After I went to my disability assessment and was granted disability I was brave enough to ask the nice woman who sat behind the counter. ¬†“Would you possibly be able to tell me my diagnosis?” ¬†She said simply affected mood disorder…and there might be a few other things.

I’ve tried to diagnosis myself. Obviously! Don’t we all. I’ve read lots of medical jargon about mental health. Nevermind I can’t read a passage in a book without having to reread it several times and then I forget. ¬†Nevermind I can’t concentrate on anything. But I’m reading scholarly articles.

psyche7Then I started to watch lectures on youtube. ¬†So much better for me as I can concentrate better on a speaker. Have you guys listened to Dr. Robert Sapolsky? ¬†Standford I believe. ¬†Lovely hippie, reminds me of Jerry Garcia. He can give a good lecture and keep me entertained. His depression lecture was really good. It’s amazing there is access to stuff like this! I think I have a little crush on him. ūüôā According to Wikipedia he’s an author and professor of neurology and neurological sciences and neurosurgery, at¬†Stanford University. ¬†He also studies baboons in Kenya. There are a bunch of his lectures on youtube.

I wasn’t sure if I was bipolar 1 or 2. ¬†Before I went to my pdoc, my GP agreed that it seemed like I was probably bipolar. ¬†She knew the back story of my manic behavior, abruptly quitting my job then combined with my depression it was pretty obvious. ¬†I was impulsive, destructive, angry. I was acting out in ways that I’m not proud of. ¬†I hurt my marriage. I was desperate to fix things and figure out why I was so messed up but I couldn’t do it myself.

We went on vacation before I left my job for good. I was SO paranoid. I was texting my 2 friends from work, desperate to know if my bosses were talking about me.  I was sure I was going to lose my job (highly intuitive!) I took my dog on long walks in the woods where i bawled and prayed out loud asking God to please help me. Also note Dr. Saplosky has a lecture on spiritually and mental health which I need to rewatch. They can be intertwined.

Originally I thought Bipolar 1 because I really think my mania was over the top. ¬†After reading about hypomania it seemed much more severe and all encompassing. ¬†I felt out of control and I didn’t know how to stop myself from being so destructive. But the destructive stuff felt good.

After I first met with my doc, he told me I did have bipolar…probably 2 with more depression. I can see where he was going with it. I was the most depressed I had ever been when I first met him. I cried through our first visits. ¬†I was so tearful, sad. I was not in my right mind.

psyche4I was afraid of sleeping. I was afraid of ghosts. ¬†My dog was retching one night and I was afraid a spirit got into him (SMH) and was so panicked. ¬†I woke my husband. I was sure several weird happenings were due to ghosts. I’d have to have lights on to sleep. Looking back now it seemed as though I was crazy. ¬†I asked him if this was psychosis and he said yes. ¬†Definitely unusual thoughts.

Since I’ve been on my mood stabilizers and whatnots and seeing my pdoc I’ve not experienced manic episodes like before. ¬†But now I’m stuck in the depressive side of things. I think I may have had a few hypomanic times since. ¬†I wonder if I’m rapid cycling (Dr. Migraine reporting for duty.)

Recently I asked him what my official diagnosis was….Bipolar 2 or 1. ¬†Biplolar 1 for sure, classic mania he said. ¬†I said Bipolar 1 and added with psychosis? ¬†The nurse in me was pretty sure I was experiencing psychosis when I was in the midst of this past depressive episode. ¬†He explained that yes, that was my diagnosis.

psyche2It’s good for me to know. ¬†I need to educate myself on my disorder. ¬†I need to know that it’s very serious. I can try and educate my family who all know I do have bipolar disorder though it’s not like we speak of it all the time. ¬†I want my husband to be able to read about it and TRY to explain to my mom why I am the way I am. She doesn’t get it, doesn’t get the extent or seriousness of it. ¬†She doesn’t get how sometimes I am not able to function. She believes it but just thinks I’m moody, depressed at times. A pill can fix it. Or counseling! ¬†That will do it!!!!!

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Today I’m doing ok. ¬†We’re tweaking my meds and I’m finding some relief. I know that I might go up and I might go down some but I’ll make it through. My pdoc is amazing. ¬†He’s willing to go out of the box. ¬†He trusts me and listens and he doesn’t brush things off. ¬†I really am blessed to find him. I don’t have a therapist and while I know he isn’t the same, he does offer counsel to me.






I’m a Little Bit Crunchy…

It’s no big mystery that I’m a lil bit on the crunchy side. ¬†I’ll be upfront with that. Natural is best. ¬†Breast feeder, co-sleeper, gardener, thrifter, birks wearing lady. So know you know now ūüôā

I LOVE essential oils. ¬†I just love them. ¬†I’ve used them on and off for 20 years, long before they were readily available and quite mainstream. ¬†I really love them in my diffuser scenting my home with natural oils known for their mood enhancing properties. I love to make blends for perfume, bug spray, car air freshners! Best idea…take a close pin and saturate the wood area where you will then clip onto one of your air vents. ¬†Pure heaven for me anyway. I frequently use a calming blend when driving and I love to get back into my car with that scent there.



I use lavender or a calming blend on my pooch when he’s anxious, barking crazy at our neighbor and when I put his thunder shirt on. It does calm him. ¬†Also, there is an amazing product out there for people and pets called Rescue remedy. ¬†I highly recommend it. It comes in a small spray bottle or drops but I like the spray since you can easily spray it in their mouth. ¬†It has a slight taste which doesn’t bother my dogs and seem eager to get some ūüôā

My oldest is a dear child. ¬†He comes home from work and often sits with me to chat. ¬†Early 20’s, he has a new girlfriend whom he is nuts over. ¬†Apparently she had some essential oils laying around and said son had some anxiety and worked nicely. ¬†He wondered if it was just the placebo effect but maybe it actually did work!!

I said, SON, how long have I been using essential oils and praising them? He laughed and reminded me he does use tea-tree oil on my recommendation.  It was just so funny that now he might be a believer in the virtues of the oils after his girl friend made him try it. I asked him if he wanted me to pick some more up for him tomorrow. To my chagrin he said yes, definitely.

I hopped over to my local health food store and just picked up three.  I love the single oils but the blends have such a nice scent and are so well rounded.  They are also blended for things like anxiety, focus, sensual, relaxation, purification, pain.

c700x420The 2 brands I use most and have easy access to are Aura Casia and NOW brand. My blends were 12.00 but I know you can get them cheaper online. In the store you can smell the samples to ensure you actually like what you’re buying. GNC carries lots of the NOW brand oils as well but I love our little, local store. ¬†Smells so good in there!

You also want to be sure you’re using pure essential oils by reputable brands. I don’t take the oils internally because there is controversy over the harming properties is you’re not using 100% pure oils. ¬†I’d rather be safe than sorry. You can find lots of info online researching the best and safest brands.

There are some oils that I don’t care for like roman chamomille and rose otto. I got both of these oils for specific conditions. The rose otta is supposed to be the best oil for migraines but it made my stomach sick. Patchouli is hit or miss with many people. Everyone likes citrus and lavender!

My faves are lavender, peppermint, frankensense, orange, ylang ylang, cederwood and sandlewood.  I love patouli when I feel like a hippie, lavender and peppermint ALWAYS for a migraine.

If you haven’t given essential oils a try, please do. ¬†You’ll be pleasantly surprised like my husband when I made a frankensence blend and use it totally helped the unrelenting back pain he was suffering from.

Ever since then he’s a believer!




Less Crazy But Fat


When your pdoc suggests starting one of the newer anti-psychotic meds used to treat your mental health disorder, you are leery but go along with her because you feel like utter shit. You don’t ask about weight gain because you already know.

The first psyche med caused me major weight gain. I must have gained 20+ pounds in a week or two. ¬†Now I’m up in my weight after years of thinking I had it under control. ¬†What I think might have been happening before was that my anxiety and mania kept my weight in check. ¬†I lost weight very easily. ¬†I could eat what I wanted but a lot of the time I wasn’t hungry but I was running around at work too. ¬†I took it as a happy benefit though didn’t realize it was probably mania at the time. We were looking through pictures of years past and I came upon a picture of a time where I know for sure I was manic and I was really thin. I read that some people can tell if someone is manic from their eyes. ¬†In that picture I looked manic. My eyes look larger and a lil bit crazy maybe. Or maybe it’s just that I remember back to that time and know I was acting out impulsively and I was definitely not acting like myself.

This new med she has me on is supposed to be weight neutral but it makes me really hungry all day long. ¬†Plus…munchies, you know. I need to stop snacking. ¬†I need to just suck it up and learn to eat wisely again. ¬†This is my public declaration ūüėČ ¬†Maybe it’ll help me stay true.



On Medications, Gardening and Life Lately

Aaah, I’m really starting to feel my depression lift. ¬†I’m so thankful. ¬†Recently we increased two of my medications and I can tell it’s working. ¬†He’s being cautious slowly increasing and monitoring my mood as to not go manic. My anxiety is slowly creeping down as it never has before. I’ve also never been on this high of a dose of my antidepressant ever. ¬†NO WONDER IT DIDN’T WORK. ¬†¬†I didn’t give him enough credit in the beginning. I wasn’t so sure the route he was taking was going to work. ¬†And it didn’t really. But now with the change things seem better. ¬†I didn’t think he’d go slightly alternative with my meds but I’m truly blessed I found him.

I still have little interest in my past hobbies. ¬†I’ve been forcing myself out of the house. ¬†I go weekly to my mum’s for the paper crafting senior group she has in her ginormous craft room. It makes me smile that I’m crafting with some retired ladies but are so nice and have been so welcoming! I know my mum enjoys it when I go and so that is a doubly good thing. My attention span is not like it used to be so I spend several hours and return home. Sometimes I go to my local thrift store. I do enjoy that and I used to love going. Nowadays I’ve just strolled around not looking for anything specific but just seeing what’s there and trying to enjoy myself out of my house.

I really think the weather has helped me too. ¬†Being out in the sunny weather, if only for short periods of time seems to make me feel better. I will have to stay alert for signs of reoccurring depression once the cold weather starts up again. ¬†I didn’t realize it affected me.

I’ve been spending time in my garden, sometimes weeding a little. ¬†Often deadheading the spent blooms. I’ve planted a few new lavender plants and a few others I’ve got on sale at Lowes. Love lavender. I have some lilies to plant (also sale!) which will wait til the husb works outside with me. I feel like I should be doing more.

Self care…not great. ¬†Weekly showers-check, sleeping in my clothes-check, wearing said clothing more than a day-check. I know I’ve got a way to go but I’m feeling like me and better than I have in so long.


Are You Comfortable With Your Doctors?

My two main docs are my pdoc and my GP who treats my myriad of other afflictions I have. I stopped seeing my neurologist because nothing was helping. He was helpful for ruling out MS as a diagnosis, got my MRI’s all authroized quickly. ¬†My GP says the specialists always are that way. ¬†(I don’t think that’s always the case).

I like my GP because she asks for my opinion and input. I’ve felt comfortable asking her about personal questions, anxiety meds, increasing a dose, can we tests for _______. ¬†I’ve convinced her to try a couple of non-conventional treatments for my migraines after I had read about them. She’s not a total pushover though. ¬†She wasn’t totally for applying for disability. She told me I wouldn’t have anything to do after, like a place to go to every day and I might end up feeling worse.

Pdoc seems to know her stuff. ¬†She was more in favor of applying for disability. A couple of times I’ve mentioned a different treatment and she hasn’t been open to it. I don’t push it either because I know she knows a hell of a lot more than my doctor google degree. She doesn’t like to do big changes with meds…one change at a time kind of rule.

Since then I’ve been on disability for two years? I’ve had ¬†a few periods of ¬†“meh” and a couple of “ok’s”. ¬†I had no idea it would take so long to treat bipolar disorder and I know I’m still not fixed yet.